"When you're finished changing, you're finished." - Benjamin Franklin
Change is the only constant. When we think about this, we might feel rattled. As human beings, we tend to prefer things to stay as they are. What is familiar and what we know feels safe and we are drawn to it. It is a safety mechanism that is hard-wired in us. Unfortunately, life does not comply to this preference. Some changes are deliberate and planned such as moving house, changing jobs, starting or ending a relationship. However, the newness attached to them or unsuspected outcomes catch us unaware. Other changes are taken out of our hands and simply presented to us such as losing a job, a break-up, the death of a loved one or a natural disaster.
As certainty fades away in the face of change, you may become anxious and fearful, maybe depressed even. You may feel inadequate and ashamed of it. You may want to hold on to familiarity through denial, throwing yourself into other aspects of your life and not dealing with the change. You might spend your waking days trying to push through discomfort, anger, fear and grief, only to lay awake in the middle of the night unable finally to escape your thoughts and feelings. You need to accept change for life to eventually resume some stability, but you may feel very little equipped to move forward in your new circumstances and make meaning of them in a positive way.
I offer an empathetic and non-judgmental space where you can safely articulate all your thoughts and feelings, get clearer about what you are dealing with and start looking for a way forward. I can help you develop strategies so that you feel more in charge. As reassurance about your ability to cope grows, you can take the steps necessary to manage and actively shape your new circumstances, ultimately finding peace and making positive meaning of the events.
Having undergone several deep changes and life transitions myself, I understand the natural pain, anger and resistance that change can trigger, as well as the freedom and peace that comes from acceptance. My training in Mindfulness-Based CBT enables me to offer tools for immediate relief and to help you identify the skills you already have to manage the situation, as well as develop new skills. My training in Psychosynthesis provides me with a "bifocal lens", the ability to deal with the most immediate issue and also to seek for life-long patterns and an insight into how your current situation may be a meaningful component within the wider scope of your life.
Contact me to find out if I can assist you in finding peace and stability.
